Why should my Mom's Will be divided equally, when my siblings spent much of her money while she was alive, leaving me on the short end?
My siblings have been busy spending thousands of dollars of my 88 year old mother's money. One sister has taken it upon herself to do much for our mother, and has spent a good deal of time grooming her and brainwashing her to give my sister money all the time. My mother lives in a very nice retirement home and has all the services she needs. She can afford it. My sister feels entitled to take as much as she wants. She has taken it upon herself to do things for my mother that my mother does not need her to do, and she has made my mother very emotionally and physically dependent on her. I know for a fact that my mother does not know the extent of money my sister is spending, along with another sister. My sisters have lied to me and to our mother. They continue to lie to my mother.
I have already been through the state investigative system. They were basically worthless, and didn't do anything, because my mother's dementia is not in her medical records... at least it wasn't a year ago.
There has been a complete break between me and my siblings. I finally went and saw my mother after a year, and our visit was good. She just wants things to be peaceful and really does not want to know the truth. The issue for me has never been about the money itself. The issue has been about the lying, secretiveness, brainwashing of my mother to believe things that are not true about me, etc. The money is the issue for them, not me.
When she passes away, the inheritance is to be divided evenly between us children. Even though the money has been secondary to me, I admit that it galls me that the inheritance will be divided evenly between us after her death..... If there is even any money left. Why should I get a much smaller amount of money, because they have already been spending it? It's not right.
I have heard that it is difficult to contest a will. Has anyone ever contested a will? What has been the outcome?
Where is the money coming from to pay for the nursing home and how long has she been in there? Who sent her there? I assume it was her doctor?
I think you should be able to ask for a copy of your mom's financial records from the bank.
I don't know about contesting a will, but even though it is not right because they have taken her money, the will is what it is. Maybe someone else can say something about contesting a will.
As far as I understand though, a will is a will and with dementia it cannot be changed which was what we were told when we suggested a new will be made up by my grandma.