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How is she preventing you from changing her sheets? What is her line of "reasoning" - is she saying she'll change them herself or is she not recognizing that they need changing? What is the living situation? Do you live together? Does she live alone? Her house? Lastly, "soiled" how? Not trying to be disgustingly graphic- but it makes a difference. A little more information is important here as your mother may be crossing the line of becoming a danger to herself.
Latour, what you need to do is get someone to come in and help you. There is a technique for changing a bed without removing the person from it, but it's a double-act - doing it on your own takes forever and is uncomfortable for all concerned.
You are right not to try to force her out of bed, but neither can you leave this situation as is. There's the hygiene issue, but she's also at risk of pressure sores, plus if this is a sudden change it needs reporting in case there's a medical problem at the root of it (pain, a stroke, could be all sorts of things going on).
Are there any nursing or home care agencies in your area you could call on? If it were me, I wouldn't want to delay. Failing that, how about a friend or neighbour with nursing qualifications or care experience to help you just for today? This is an emergency of sorts so you shouldn't hesitate to reach out for help.
My mom is stage seven Alzheimer's and is bedridden. I bath her in the bed and change her sheets. I will try to describe my strategy.
I also add a washable bed pad on top of the sheets. This way I can change it daily and only need to do the sheets twice a week. I change her brief about every 2-3 hours.
To change the sheets, first remove the top sheet and turn your LO in their side, facing away from you. Then remove the corners of the fitted sheet and roll the length of it toward your LO. Slide the top and bottom corners of the new sheet on this side of the bed. Roll the length of this sheet up too. Get both rolls as close to your LO as possible. Now you will roll your LO to their others side, facing you...across the rolled sheets. From the other side, remove the dirty sheet. Unroll the new sheet and put the corners on. And there you have it, clean sheets! Add the top sheet and all done.
I used to add the bed pad after but now just add it as a layer while doing the sheets. Roll it up and put it on top.
When you get some experience under your belt, you can do it while changing her brief. I find the less I roll mom, the less agitated with me she becomes
Ok. I live with her in her house and I take care of her. She is incontinent. She is not recognizing the sheets need changing. She does not want to get up from the bed. If I try to pull her up she shouts at me and I give up since I don't want to hurt her in any way. She is not a danger to herself but she has bad days where she is in a daze. She also had dementia.
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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A little more information is important here as your mother may be crossing the line of becoming a danger to herself.
You are right not to try to force her out of bed, but neither can you leave this situation as is. There's the hygiene issue, but she's also at risk of pressure sores, plus if this is a sudden change it needs reporting in case there's a medical problem at the root of it (pain, a stroke, could be all sorts of things going on).
Are there any nursing or home care agencies in your area you could call on? If it were me, I wouldn't want to delay. Failing that, how about a friend or neighbour with nursing qualifications or care experience to help you just for today? This is an emergency of sorts so you shouldn't hesitate to reach out for help.
I also add a washable bed pad on top of the sheets. This way I can change it daily and only need to do the sheets twice a week. I change her brief about every 2-3 hours.
To change the sheets, first remove the top sheet and turn your LO in their side, facing away from you. Then remove the corners of the fitted sheet and roll the length of it toward your LO. Slide the top and bottom corners of the new sheet on this side of the bed. Roll the length of this sheet up too. Get both rolls as close to your LO as possible. Now you will roll your LO to their others side, facing you...across the rolled sheets. From the other side, remove the dirty sheet. Unroll the new sheet and put the corners on. And there you have it, clean sheets! Add the top sheet and all done.
I used to add the bed pad after but now just add it as a layer while doing the sheets. Roll it up and put it on top.
When you get some experience under your belt, you can do it while changing her brief. I find the less I roll mom, the less agitated with me she becomes