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Hi everyone. Been here before. My husband has Alzheimer's. I have been caring for him since diagnosis in2019.My sister's husband has Parkinson's and is now in a nursing home. Someone close to me asked if I thought my sisters situation is worse than mine. I think they are just different circumstances that we deal with on a daily basis out of love. I was taken aback from that question that was asked of me. What do you think?

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Its like asking, what's worse? Cancer of the stomach or the liver? Ridiculous.
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I think it is an outrageous question, to be honest. What is one to say to such a thing?
Who in the WORLD would compare such things. Is there somewhere a chart of measurements about the things that can happen to us. Where having a severe stroke gets more points than say being blind????

I would say that I simply have no way to measure what is worse or better for people. WAY out of my job description.
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Cheeky79 Nov 9, 2024
I agree. I am very close to this person
that asked me this, I was in disbelief.
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Maybe the person does not realize that with Parkinsons comes Dementia. A classmates husband got hard to handle the last few months of his life and she had to place him.
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I'm sorry you had to go through that , people should never compare emotional pain. Pain is pain and should not be compared.


With that being said, I did some caregiving years ago, I took care of someone once with Parkinson's , just to fill in for someone else, and I told her I would never fill in again . There was just something very sad about it, but I would never say what she said even if I felt like it could be true.
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