This family claims they bought a townhome next door because the father is dying and it will be a place for their mother to live after he’s gone. Sort of a downsizing; however, over a brief amount of time it has become apparent that she has something going on mentally. I’ve heard them arguing through the walls and on the back patio that now that she can’t take care of him. They think she’s had three strokes since moving in. Didn’t see that coming I’m sure, but now they really need help. They do not want to put them in a facility because they’ll be separated. There is at least one family member less than five minutes away so he claims. They come and go with each catastrophe that happens but don’t stay or move in. Now the neighbor with mental issues is claiming that I’m harassing her when in fact it’s the other way around. I hear her yelling at the family members all the time through the walls. I get yelled at when she’s on her back patio and I’m trying to enjoy my patio, I get yelled at in the front yard because when I’m taking photos of some yardwork I’ve done to send to my mom who wanted to see them she claims I was photographing her property. She went to the police and convinced them I was and I got a visit from a sheriffs detective saying not to go over there which I dont except for a few prior times like taking the mail that ended up in my mailbox for them and when I heard her husband through the wall crying out for her at least a half a dozen times. I went over to let her know he was yelling for her. She slammed the door in my face. I won’t be going over there at all because now this cluster is affecting my life dramatically. The visit from the officer was a wake up call that they don’t appreciate nor care about my peace of mind. Please don’t suggest talking to the son and daughter. They know exactly what’s going on. They’ve never been nice to me at all. The son butchered my shrubs along the driveway the day before I had someone coming to cut them back and give them more room in their driveway (the mother knew, but now says she didn’t have that conversation). I volunteered to walk their dog for free after their daughter asked me if I could help and she never followed throug. Basically, my assessment of the situation not being a professional is that someone needs to be living with them 24/7 or they need to be in a facility. They are driving me nuts and now I realize having a conversation with the mother and the daughter and a son is pointless. They know what’s truly going on and are pointing their fingers at me? Help :(
Instead of that, just buy some cams. Dogs on your property, there’s a cam for that.
Don’t add to your frustration by being annoyed with a website. Totally not worth it!
Everyone is entitled to their opinions. Consider using recommendations of whatever you find useful and simply ignore the rest.
Best of luck to you!
I apologize. I’ve just been through the ringer and things were finally letting up…& now this.
I forgot one of my most important rules to live by temporarily: use what I can and toss the rest.
Thank you for reminding me!:)
I didn’t take any offense at all to any of your comments. I appreciate your kindness but you really don’t owe me an apology.
Oh gosh, I totally understand that you are stressed out. I would be too if I were in your situation.
I wish that I could say that I remain calm, cool and collected when I am stressed.
The truth is that very often I am on edge when things are out of wack in my life. I am working on it! I am better than I was before.
In truth, my husband has always been my calming force when I get upset. He’s my ‘Mr. Chill’ when I have nearly fallen apart.
The best case scenario is that your neighbors will move. I just hope that one way or another this mess will come to an end for you.
Take care.
I would call and have PD do a Welfare check on them.
you can remain anonymous. Identify yourself as a concerned neighbor.
There must be other neighbors that hear this.
Always record when your outside, audio is all the police need.
Be aware of your surroundings.
Ive had horrible neighbors.
Take care.
No it does not. I just haven’t addressed the rest of the misinformation…yet. If I do at all.
I agree about cameras and lighting. I think keeping records of what they do. In my township, its a regulation that people need to pick up their dogs waste. Also, that dogs are not allowed to run loose. I would get as much proof as I could to get a restraining order. At that time I would make it known that you understand that alot of this is a couple who need help. One with Dementia the other dying that she is left to care for.
Lets hope that the man passes and at that time they realize Mom needs a facility. She may think your a daughter who has abandoned her. Maybe you can put up a sound proof wall.
Me, I would sell but I realize that may not be an option. Just try and ignore them at this point. Don't talk to anyone associated with the house.
APS, no they are not suppose to say who filed the complaint but I am sure u will get blamed whether u did or not.
How are your patios, is there a roof, can u put up an awning and then buy a blind to hang on the side the neighbors are?
We requested to fence the area in, but were denied that request (we didn’t want to fence it in, but it seems it might be the only way to keep them away…at least the dementia patient). The other would probably bring a ladder and look in…lol.
The parking space between us and the dementia patient has a barrier (our front yard). Crazy is two doors down. We are right next to the neighbor on the other side. No signage allowed.
Regulations here too RE: dog waste and leashes.
Thank you for your suggestions:)
A sound proof wall? Interior?
I would sell, too, but it’s not an option right now…
I’m ignoring all of them…completely.
I am sure we would get blamed whether we did or not.
Patios are side by side with a privacy panel on each side. No awnings allowed.
I wonder how many people end up in similar situations.
Advanced dementia robs a person of their ability to live independently and it can also cause problems for others. It’s a no win situation.
None of this is fun/funny.
What is the condition of his widow? Do you think she is able to live alone without help? How often do the children check on her?
How old is she?
Sometimes, one person dies and the other person dies shortly afterwards. Other times they live a long time as a widow. Is she in poor health?
It is sad. She’s had three strokes and was diagnosed with dementia after the first one. She is not capable of living alone, IMHO. She shouldn’t be left alone at all. She shouldn’t be driving either… I don’t know how often the children will check on her as opposed to how little they were (just during emergencies). 82? Yes, that’s the way my parents will go. Don’t know about these two though. They’ve been prepping for his death for a long time… She’s been taken by ambulance to the hospital 3x since moving in for falls/strokes:(
Anyway, I hope that it works out where she gets the care that she needs and that you are able to live your life in peace without any further complications.
Years ago I rented half of a duplex. The other tenants were a woman and her elderly mother. Clearly the mother should not have been left alone while the daughter went to work. I wonder how often this occurs, where an elderly person is left alone and shouldn’t be home alone.
My neighbor was constantly opening the door up to strangers. We lived just off of a busy bus route and occasionally people would knock on our doors asking for help, money, etc. I didn’t open my door to them. The old lady next door would always open her door.
I told her daughter that I was concerned that she would open the door up to someone who was dangerous. The daughter did absolutely nothing about it.
This old woman was very sweet and would get her purse and hand over money to the person at the door who said that they needed help. I moved away and thought about her from time to time, hoping that she was never harmed by anyone who knocked on her door.
So sorry you went through all of this. I hope the widow gets moved elsewhere and that you get a nice new neighbor. Or none, so you can recover from the trauma.
You want me to call the same police that listened to the dementia patient and issued a no tresspass order on me? Please explain your rationale?
Wishing you the best.