There could be several reasons for this behavior. One is that suspicion is a dominant pesonality trait with her dementia and she is angered that she cannot access the desktop when I am sleeping. This has been going on for several years but she is now pulling the wires in the back of the computer. The last few night she has pulled the wires for the router and the modem. The computer is in a separate room and I could lock the door but that will really anger her , I am thinking.
I know that if my man was looking at inappropriate things online, I'd not only be pulling out all the wires, but would be smashing the damn thing as well, dementia or no dementia.
But if you're being a saint online, then just lock the door and let the chips fall where they may.
Lock the door to the office where your computer is, for the immediate moment, but better yet, address the fact that your wife is suffering from advanced dementia and either needs to be in Memory Care AL or have a night aide hired to be with her while she's awake in the wee hours to ensure her safety.
The issue isn't your computer, but the danger that lurks in being alone at night and getting into mischief with dementia at play.
Falls are likely to happen as well if she is stumbling around in the evening hours. She would be well cared for and monitored by a professional staff in a memory care facility.
Lea is right. It’s simply not safe for her to be wondering around your house at night.
Best wishes to you and your wife.
It is good to know facts about drugs that are being taken but it is good to take into consideration that they
are given according to individual needs and many are multi purpose. Exceptions are made in certain cases.
My daughter is allergic to a certain group of antibiotics. She had a very bad infection once and her doctor said that he strongly felt that she should risk taking the antibiotic because otherwise she could have died. She was closely monitored and the doctor was correct in ordering that particular antibiotic because it cleared the infection.
When it comes to meds, everything is considered and then a decision is made. It’s not a black and white issue.
It’s the same thing with listed side effects. Not everyone will have side effects. I know a woman who is so scared of side effects that she suffers needlessly because she reads all of the listed side effects and refuses any medication.
This was approved by my mother’s doctor and it helped her.
As it is (he is a computer engineer) everything is set up and if he had to re-install all those cords every morning---whoa, what a mess.
There's little shance your wife would start a fire or anything, Sounds like she's just yanking out cables at random. Annoying, but not deadly. If you worry about her starting an electrical fire, she could do that with a for in an outlet.
Does she understand what she's doing at all? Even if she doesn't, just lock the door and let her fuss at you.
Such an infection can cause a wide range of different types of strange and unwanted behaviors. Have her primary doctor or an urgent care run a UTI test. If it comes back positive, the infection can be treated with antibiotics.
I would lock the door. Find an area rug that fits in front of the door in black. Round or oval would be the best because they look like a hole. But a rectangle may work. People with Dementia lose depth perception and think the rug is a hole and will not go over it. You could also try curtains over the door. Makes it look like a window may be behind it. And still lock the door. I really doubt if she will remember a door used to be there or a window wasn't. Maybe get a curtain the same color of the wall pulling it flat. Again, no depth perception so doesn't notice its a cutain and not the wall. They have some nice material outer shower curtains not you can use.
This is only going to get worse and you need to go pro-active in any number of areas to survive this.
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Screws the cable(s) to the computer.
Zip ties can work as well by wrapping around the cable and then fastening to the desktop case.