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There are no guarantees. All surgeries involve risks of all sorts. Will she be able to follow-through on her post-op PT? Or comply with any medications prescribed? Will you be able to provide all the post-op caregiving? I totally understand your concern about the anesthesia. Have you thoroughly researched less invasive options to relieve her pain? Since she already has dementia, I might be of the mind to risk the surgery but she would need to be in quite a bit of constant pain with no relief from other therapies to compel me to put her through it. Could you live with yourself if the worst-case scenario occurred? May you have peace with your decision and success in helping your wife become pain-free!
There are many reasons for back pain. It can sure make life awful.
I would try acupuncture, chiropractor, CBD oil, and even Massage before surgery. Back pain is very common. I suffer from two types. CBD oil helped me tremendously with lower back pain. Chiro adjustments also help. Often I never get to the adjustment part as I am too tight to receive an adjustment. The equipment they use to loosen my muscles helps tremendously. Not sure what it’s called. Reminds me of a car wax buffer. It usually lasts for months for me. I’ve never tried acupuncture but I would before surgery. I’ve had back spasms for about 20 years. Usually brought on by some repetitive chore. Veggie chopping etc. think Thanksgiving or Christmas gift wrapping. An area gets inflamed and the pain can be awful. Occasionally I would take a muscle relaxer and go to bed and try to “sleep” it off. Only happened once or twice a year for about 15 years and then lower back pain like sciatica began. Had that chronically. I discovered CBD oil about two years ago and I can’t believe how much it has helped. Amazing. I also use the disposal thermal wraps and sometimes Advil. It just depends on what I have on hand when the pain starts up. Walking everyday keeps it away for me but if I get out of the habit it starts up when stressed. So try some things first. Taking Advil is a last resort for me but that pain sure gets my attention. Here is a great article from Harvard suggesting conservative treatment before surgery and good advice on the types of surgery. It’s not without risk aside from the anesthesia which can be significant as we know.
We don't know anything about your wife's particular type of dementia, or any underlying medical conditions she may have.
We don't know what surgery is planned.
We don't know what her surgeon has identified as the cause of her back pain, or how severe the pain is, or what effect it is having on your wife's mobility and her quality of life.
We don't know the first thing about how the anaesthetists will handle her case.
And you're asking us?
If you have concerns, talk to her surgeon about it. What you want to know is whether the benefits of the surgery will outweigh the risks. You can also ask whether there are alternatives either to the surgery, or to general anaesthesia.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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I would try acupuncture, chiropractor, CBD oil, and even Massage before surgery.
Back pain is very common. I suffer from two types. CBD oil helped me tremendously with lower back pain. Chiro adjustments also help. Often I never get to the adjustment part as I am too tight to receive an adjustment. The equipment they use to loosen my muscles helps tremendously. Not sure what it’s called. Reminds me of a car wax buffer. It usually lasts for months for me.
I’ve never tried acupuncture but I would before surgery. I’ve had back spasms for about 20 years. Usually brought on by some repetitive chore. Veggie chopping etc. think Thanksgiving or Christmas gift wrapping. An area gets inflamed and the pain can be awful. Occasionally I would take a muscle relaxer and go to bed and try to “sleep” it off.
Only happened once or twice a year for about 15 years and then lower back pain like sciatica began. Had that chronically. I discovered CBD oil about two years ago and I can’t believe how much it has helped. Amazing.
I also use the disposal thermal wraps and sometimes Advil. It just depends on what I have on hand when the pain starts up. Walking everyday keeps it away for me but if I get out of the habit it starts up when stressed.
So try some things first. Taking Advil is a last resort for me but that pain sure gets my attention.
Here is a great article from Harvard suggesting conservative treatment before surgery and good advice on the types of surgery. It’s not without risk aside from the anesthesia which can be significant as we know.
https://www.health.harvard.edu/pain/when-is-back-surgery-the-right-choice
We don't know what surgery is planned.
We don't know what her surgeon has identified as the cause of her back pain, or how severe the pain is, or what effect it is having on your wife's mobility and her quality of life.
We don't know the first thing about how the anaesthetists will handle her case.
And you're asking us?
If you have concerns, talk to her surgeon about it. What you want to know is whether the benefits of the surgery will outweigh the risks. You can also ask whether there are alternatives either to the surgery, or to general anaesthesia.