As I have said before, my BIL is in a nursing facility almost 200 miles away from home and family. We have been trying forever to get him closer. However, the facility claimed no facilities would accept him due to behaviors.
The way they have handled so many things in an inappropriate manner, I had a gut feeling something was not right. I made a few phone calls and now this is what I am hearing.
Since they have hired a new staff (including administrator) and giving him the care he needs …. HE IS NOT HAVING ANY BEHAVIOR ISSUES AT ALL.
My question is this, Now that his rep has been ruined, how will he ever get a chance at being accepted near home?
I know that people who have dementia often have behavioral issues within a long term care facility. It's very common. I don't get why that would preclude him from facilities. Is his AL an MC? Have they told you what level of care that he needs?
Every facility that my husband and I have tried to get his brother transitioned to has denied him admission due to behaviors.
I am very glad to hear that your BIL's difficulties seem to have been resolved, and that he is now doing well at the NH under new management.
But leaving aside any question at all of what caused the difficulties and what kind of "record" it's left your BIL with, what about the impact a major change of location might have on him now?
The advantages of moving him would have to be really, really certain and significant for this to be a good idea. However frustrating it might be, and however unfair it feels on the family, might it not be better to leave him settled in a place where you know his needs are being met?
To me, isolating a person from his home and family is not the right decision. No one knows a loved one like family.
If current facility can be absolved of any behavioral issues in the new facility there should not be an issue in moving him.. Current facility is protecting itself first and foremost.
Yes, it is about facility protecting their self. I guess that is why they focused on hiring all new staff and not trying to help us get BIL closer to home.
It's about them.
How often are other members of your family visiting him now?
How does he behave when you or others visit?
What would you do differently if he were closer?
I think you have a lot of questions to ask yourself to determine whether or not moving your BIL is really in *his* best interest.