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It’s a matter of changing your focus. While it may not have been the outcome anyone wanted it wouldn’t have happened if it wasn’t the best decision. Guilt would be for if you’d not acted in the loved ones best interests. And you’re not abandoning them at all, you’re still a caregiver, now in a different but hugely important role. The memory care staff needs to see regularly that your loved one is a resident that is cared for, you’re the eyes on the place, overseeing care and ensuring that things are as they should be. I know it’s hard, but please don’t spin your wheels in guilt, use your time and emotions to be a positive caregiver in the new environment
The grief and sorrow are only natural, sometimes we are stuck between that rock and hard place and there are no good solutions so we have to make due with the options available. Yes, it sucks to have to watch someone we care about suffer from this crappy disease that robs them of so much, but it's not. your. fault. - you didn't create this and you can't wave a magic wand and make it all go away.
I completely understand the guilt. I don’t think I will ever get past it. When people say “visit regularly” how often are others going to check on loved ones & to visit. Some of the staff who seem legitimately GOOD at caring for our loved ones seem to imply & sometimes even tell me that I visit too often, and it doesn’t give my mother a chance to “settle”. Personally I am not expecting her to ever settle. She never stops asking / begging to go home, even though it’s unclear if she knows where home is. When she was “home” she physically & verbally battled my father to the point that we were advised by their Drs that they should no longer live alone together (Dad does not have dementia - but was becoming more & more frail even with me staying with them pretty much full time for the last 7 months. He also hid a great deal of what he has been dealing with for well over a year before I moved in.)
I’m following for please other’s advice & experiences. It’s so true what I’ve read here - that even our closest friends really don’t understand what we are going through unless they have lived it too.
You are not abandoning them, this is where they need to be, in fact, you are doing exactly the right thing, providing them with 24/7 professional care.
Guilt is the buzz word of the 21st Century, it is driven by fear, it is a self imposed emotion that will keep one stuck, take a minute and Google False Guilt, it may be of some assistance to you. You have nothing to feel guilty about, you have done nothing wrong.
Turn these negative thoughts around, they serve no purpose. Sending support your way!
DollyMe, that's a great solution about exploring the theory of False Guilt. It really makes sense. It must be terrible to struggle with this kind of thing, but, there does seem to be ways to eliminate it.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I’m following for please other’s advice & experiences. It’s so true what I’ve read here - that even our closest friends really don’t understand what we are going through unless they have lived it too.
Guilt is the buzz word of the 21st Century, it is driven by fear, it is a self imposed emotion that will keep one stuck, take a minute and Google False Guilt, it may be of some assistance to you. You have nothing to feel guilty about, you have done nothing wrong.
Turn these negative thoughts around, they serve no purpose. Sending support your way!