My husband has POA for his mother after a slight stroke. He's concerned about her money lasting because she has gone from her home, to an assisted living home, to now a board and care. She has retirement and SS dollars coming in, but does not nearly cover the cost. Also funds from the sale of her house make up the difference currently. This has been a long 15 years since the passing of my father in law, the last 3 the worse for my husband as far as caring and arranging care for her with advancing Dementia. It is affecting his health as she is demanding, spiteful and is determined to live to 100 she is now 89 with no major health issues, but her body is breaking down. She had a quadruple by pass 14 years ago and still ticking with no diet or exercise changes. She has given my brother-in-law a substantial amount of money over the years, he has a daughter with major health issues, and also co-sighed student loans for his son. I feel this will be a mess when money runs out with the 5 year look back.
But the student loan is just part of all this, now isn't it? My suggestion is for your to help hubby in sorting out the morass that is his mom's situation. Being organized in all this is really important & you can do this! He probably is overwhelmed in all this and mom knows how to get to him.
Get a couple of binders going on her: financial, medical and legal. Get a box of those clear insert sheets to put in documents (rather than 3 hole punching them in) Then go through all you can find as to the last 3 years on her and then anything long term problematic like the student loan & funds loaned to BIL that is out there. You need to find her "awards" letters from SS and any retirements too. Then you do a projections on her costs of care and when her house-sale $ will run down, I mention 3 years because it seems that if they have been in IL, AL or board & care home situations and then need a NH, the look back is somewhat shorter as their funds have been paying for care (at IL, etc). For my mom - who was in IL - it was 3 years & 6 months review of financials.
You want to figure out when the transfers were done. Medicaid has a 5 year look back that is based on the date of the Medicaid application so anything loaned to BIL before that date is not a compliance issue. So say mom loaned BIL 20K in Oct, 2012, then you try to do whatever to hold off mom's Medicaid application to Nov, 2017 so it's outside the look-back period. If that is just not feasible as she needs a NH sooner, then you use the info to basically force BIL to either repay mom or private pay for her during the transfer penalty period. Either you go hard-ball on this (and you can get APS involved) with BIL or just private pay for the penalty period or let mom become a ward of the state.
For my mom, the 3 yr 6 mo lookback was on bank statements. I still had to have a on bank letterhead a statement as to the disposition of any and all accounts closed out within 5 years - fortunately as her CD, T bills expired they were not renewed but went into her checking account so it was clear as to where her funds went - the bank officer was really nice about it & it took the better part of a morning and I went in with all mom's old statements and CD info.
I would suggest once you get handle on the past 3 years, you set up an appointment for you & hubs to see an elder law attorney to see what the options are now and before she runs out of funds. At 89, she is not going to get any better or easier to deal with & you want a game-plan to deal with her. Good luck & get organized!
Some states are now doing 7 year look-backs. More and more states are invoking "filial responsibility" laws and will seek judgment against the child she gave money to. If I were you, gosh, I'd want a lawyer helping with this.
I think the cosigned loan is an unenforceable contract since she was not of sound mind at the time. The loan company can't get any money from her anyway - she's on SS and disability, and once the loan co knows that, they will stop chasing her for payment and pursue the youngster.
Works wonders, also tell him Grandma will be delivered to his residence and he will be stuck with caring for her. {no returns allowed :))
I have seen it happen.... What jerks...