Anyone have a loved one that went into assisted living and ended up in memory care because STAFF recommended it and family went along? The meds seem to make it worse. Trazodone? What is it for? Sleep? She is so anxious and it is ridiculous. She was fine before these meds. Was on Sertraline and went straight to Trazodone, been on it for months. Doesn't seem to help, so why keep giving it to her?
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I am just referring to a similar situation my friend went through with her mom regarding her mother and that place wanting to transfer mom into MC.. needless to say,my friend did move her out of that facility into a better place. I agree it should not happen, but it actually did. Thank God my friend is such a good involved caregiver. This incident happened about 8 years ago. Mom is now showing a bit of declining, and is now in assisted Living. Yes That Did Happen !
Now regarding the meds, a LO, can ask a director a question. The director would most certainly explain, as you did, they can only discuss such information to the POA or guardian. Sometimes people need to hear it from the horse's mouth. Let her find out, it never hurts to ask, geez.
But if she is pressing the same questions and starts bothering the facility Staff, that may actually give facility and POA reasons to stop her visitations.
OH BOY!! NOW MY hands ARE SO TURED FROM RESPONDING to this text..
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https://www.agingcare.com/questions/niece-has-poa-and-is-trying-to-make-a-case-against-us-for-phone-calls-and-visits-based-solely-on-her-499715.htm
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/being-locked-up-in-memory-care-seems-cruel-especially-for-someone-who-knows-whats-going-on-499622.htm
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/my-sister-in-law-was-put-in-memory-care-and-doesnt-want-to-be-there-499354.htm
Please stop meddling and second-guessing your niece's decisions. Just the fact of how many posts youve made on this topic means you don't understand the situation or are in deep denial about it. Your SIL made your niece (her own daughter) her PoA, and NOT YOU. Stop trying to insert yourself -- you seem to be making the situation worse and that's why you're being blocked.
If you want to visit, maybe extend an olive branch and ask for a supervised visit with your niece present.
I just skimmed your previous posts. I would wonder if you have too much to say about your SILs care. I would like to know how you know anything about her meds? Since you are not the POA, you should not be privy to this information. And the POA does not need to give you any info about Mom. Actually, she shouldn't as Moms representative.
If its true that when you call SIL and visit she gets anxious, then yes the niece can ban you from visiting. This is not good for SIL. And yes, staff can recommend MC. Maybe SIL is an escape artist or her care now is more than the AL can give. They can also recommend that certain people not visit because it upsets the resident.
I understand that this is a SIL and at one time maybe you were close but the Dementia mind changes things. Maybe your too involved, if so, you need to back off. Let niece do what she was assigned to do, make decisions for Mom when she no longer can. If you interfer too much, you may not be given anymore info and niece has a right to withhold it per her POA.
P.S. I have a SIL that I get along very well with. And I can see her giving my daughters her opinions and even though the love her, they would not appreciate it. They are both grown adults in their 40s. They don't need someone telling them how to care for their Mom. One is an RN who works in LTC.
What is trazodone for? And then complaining she has anxiety? A Google search could have told you trazodone is for anxiety so if anything maybe she needs it plus more, not to be taken off of it.
If you really have the best interests of the patient involved ask some polite questions of whoever makes her medical decisions. Complaining on the internet about things you haven’t even done a basic search for the answers is weird.
The niece holds all the cards. She knows you are not comfortable his things are going.caregiving , geez, things can turn in an instant.
Please take it easy with your niece. Don't upset her.
You need to be able to visit LO as much as you want. Put a smile on your face, . Tell your niece, family and the staff you know they will do the best for LO.. niece doesn't want to harm the LO..
I'm sure she loves LO too. I don't feel there is anything vindictive going on. It's just a decision that had to be made..
I feel your frustration. I was there when my LO was placed.. it's hard..
hugs..
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MG8522 states you may be able to switch them up etc.
or to the extreme and have LO evaluated for hospice care, in which most likely, meds will be stopped.
And how long was she on sertraline? And if she was on that a long time, the side effects can be alarming if she went off that cold turkey.
Look up BRAIN ZAPPING and sertraline .
TRAZ can cause tinnitus, ringing in ears..