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My husband is 71 has had Alzheimer's for approx 7 years. He has now been alseep for over 60 hours straight. I'm scared....and there doesn't seem to be much understanding .....
My mother is at the stage of not doing anything for herself anymore. She doesn't even speak to say if something is wrong with her. She is constanly nodding and sleeping very strongly. She would peek up and goes back to sleep. Or sit in a chair and rock from side to side. When asked if she wants to laid in the bed, she would say yes and off to sleep instantly. So what is this stage meaning?
My 96 year old mother has dementia. She has a full time aid as she cannot walk or do anything for herself. She is sleeping alot and even when she is awake she keeps her eyes closed. She is also becoming combative with her aid, hitting and even biting her when she changes her diapers and washes her. She eats alot less than she used to and has lost weight. The only thing that seems to soothe at times is music and when I visit her and put her to bed we pray together and that seems to calm her down a bit. She talks about dying and seems to be ready for it. I pray for her to go peacefully in her sleep. It is so sad and depressing to see your mom like this. When I leave sometimes I just cry in the car on the way home.
I am caregiver for 83yo man with FTD (frontotemporal dementia) and he sleeps most of the time, also has Sundowners for which Melatonin works fairly well. Can anyone out there share how long their loved one lived once the sleeping nearly all the time starts?
Good luck getting an answer on that one. Nobody ever wants to say anything about time. They just give the same old “everyone’s different” platitudes. Never any answers, only questions.
My Mom is 83 and lives with me. At best she is pleasantly confused, when she is awake. She has no other medical issues, other than Dimentia/Alzheimer's. I feel better knowing that there are others going through the same thing. I have tried to keep her stimulated, but it is hard when she sleeps more and more during the day and then all night. She seems peaceful while she sleeps so that helps me as we go through this season of both our lives.
My husband has dementia...couple of months ago started sleeping from 8-9 in the evening until 2-3 in the pm. He does eat/drink anything at all until he gets up. Worry about dehydration. No major illnesses (physical); deep depression. Has refused all suggestions for mental help; daytime activity; social visits. At my breaking point. Any suggestions?
What usually causes death in a person with Alzheimers ? Like those that have written before me, my husband has started sleeping most of the time. His appetite has decreased and he has lost all interest in watching the dvd's that he used to watch. He talks very little now and isolates himself from human interaction. I have just discovered this website and thank you for it.
My mother has had Alzheimer's disease for several years and recently has begun sleeping more and more. She is eating less, talking less, and having more trouble keeping her balance when she walks. Just this week, she suddenly seemed to be in a daze. What does this mean? Does this signal that her disease is progressing? What is happening to her when she appears to be in a daze and what can I do to help her?
Hi everyone, just found this site..I'm caring for my dad with this horrible disease, was just needing someone to talk to...he's starting to sleep alot..
Sherrieg, This appears to be an older thread but I came across your post here, I care for my dad also and he has always been a man who liked to take naps but 6 months ago I would say he stayed awake more. Now within the past 6 months he has gone from sleeping 12 hours then 15 or more and now within the past 2 months 20+ hours a day and he would sleep all the time if I didn't try to get him up for snacks, meals, or drinks. When he tells me lately that he tried to get up out of bed that tells me maybe he just wasn't able to or he is having an issue with waking up. I see that sometimes he is hard to awaken like his eyes are half open but yet he doesn't see or hear me.. he is just in a daze and looks so pale when he is sleeping. I believe he isn't getting enough oxygen to his brain and he acts that way, in a daze even when he is up moving around.
Yes. I am experiencing the same here. He threatened to throw me out of my own home today. He says I need not to worry about his problems. What he doesn't understand.. he is a problem and he is my problem. Not everybody has the financial means to just put them somewhere for somebody else to care for. I don't. It's just me. My Dad has always been hateful just worse now with this disease. I think I would rather he sleeps all the time, at least I don't have to face his ugliness,
Sherrieg, Read through some of the other discussions on this website. They will help you and you will be able to talk to more people. I have found them to be very helpful. You have to remember late stages of dementia and any infection they may have that you may not know about causes them to be agitated more which I believe is the case with my Dad. Things like their appetite changes, irritability, sleeping a lot, restlessness( my Dad has been busy picking at things for over 2 years now), confusion, memory loss, incontinence, progressive weight loss. Those are all symptoms in late stage dementia and I believe that is what my Dad may be going through. unfortunately,, time will tell,, but we don't know how long he will last. I am one who has never wanted to watch suffering linger on. I already did that with my Mom.
My Mom is 85 and was diagnosed with Dementia 10-1316. Rite now it is 2:13 in the afternoon and she still is not up yet. Some days she will get up early, say 9 or so but most of the time it is 11 or later. She nods off a lot during the day. This just starting happening about 8 months ago and I am worried. We go to the doctor tomorrow and I am going to talk to her doctor about it. I just hate Dementia and what it has done to my Momma.
My mother has Alzheimer's and is sleeping more and more. I took her to the hospital last week because I thought she may have had a stroke. All the tests came back clear. The Drs said this was to be expected in the later stages of this terrible disease but she is only 72. It breaks my heart.
My wife who is 61 has "Pick's" disease, she sleeps a lot or eyes closed. She will wash a few pots up but after that it is sleeping, it is so emotionally draining seeing her there, caring for her 24/7. Compared to how she used to be a fantastic cook and baker, house spotless. You ask her how she is and get no reply, she will stand there in a morning after her shower and ask what do I do now I have seen her trying to put two pairs of pants on. I do get a bit of rest bite as she goes to our local Alzheimer's society 3 times a week, they have been fantastic. K
I know this is an old post but it seems to have been resurrected by others' situations. I care for my mother who will be 94 in a few months. She has a tendency to doze on the couch throughout the day, especially when she starts to watch TV. She is going to bed a little earlier at night, but cries out in her sleep and often wakes up saying she is dying, she is going to die tonight, why is God doing this to me, what have I done to deserve this, why doesn't He just take me. The next morning she does not remember anything about it. The numbness and tingling of severe carpal tunnel syndrome wakes her up as well.
She has just recently developed another eye infection which seems rather severe. It looks like uveitis from the pictures and description on the web. I managed to get her to a walk-in clinic last Saturday and received a prescription for antibiotic drops. The doctor said if it didn't clear up in a week to go to her g.p. Along with the infection, she is getting more severe headaches/eye pain, and it is hard to tell if it is from the infection or the meningioma (benign growth on the skull above the affected eye). I've given her more Tylenol in the past week or two than in the last few months.
Well the drops didn't even make a dent in the infection and I have been so worried the retina might detach or she might lose her vision. Against a lot of opposition I called the Med Visit doctor, who was amazingly intelligent as he had eye issues himself. He gave me another prescription for eye drops as well as an ointment to put in at night, but reassured me that she showed no signs of a detached retina. However, if I didn't seen an improvement within 48 hours, to go to Emergency, where they would have the equipment to look at the back of the eye and make a referral to a specialist. Needless to say, she refused to go today.
She has such profound fatigue and weakness that she becomes short of breath with the slightest physical exertion or emotional upset. She has tremors that look more like mini seizures, especially when she is angry/upset/arguing. She also complains more about not being able to breathe. Her hearing loss is so profound now that even when I am speaking up close to her and repeating myself 4 times, she cannot hear or comprehend even the simplest of questions or statements. The extreme dizzy spells are becoming frequent and she has trouble walking (she says she doesn't have any strength in her).
I believe this is the beginning of the end, but then it can go on for months or years. I just wish she wasn't so oppositionally defiant about having someone in with her. This proverbial plane is experiencing a lot of turbulence and headed for a crash landing.
My husband is only 69 and has moderate/late dementia (vascular) which progresses in pronounced steps. It alarms me that he suddenly is sleeping a lot. After reading your comments, it grieves me to realize he may be in the final stages. But it also comforts me to know that you have experienced the same thing and that I am not alone.
My father will be 85 this month and he sleeps more now then he has been. It's good to hear from other caregivers. I pray strength for all who have love ones with Alzhiemers.
My mom is 85 years old, she was diagnosed with Dementia 3 years ago. We had planned to go on a cruise next week but I am concerned. She is sleeping alot, and not eating much at all. The past couple weeks she has more confused then normally. I am afraid taking her out of her surroundings will be hard on her.
My mum has suddenly started sleeping a lot - in the last few weeks. It's very noticeable that it's a new stage of her dementia. She's 88 and like others have said, seems to prefer to be in bed and 'asleep' when not even asleep!
My mom has Alzheimer's, sleeps a lot, but when the son she loves the most comes in, she is wide awake, ready to go with him anywhere. I have been her primary caretaker, but got burnt out completley with no help from my 5 brothers and sisters, so I just quit so they would have to step in; I just couldn't do it anymore. But one thing that bothered me, and still do, is the fact she mistreated everyone we brought in to help her, including me since I was there most of the time. She wouldn't let anyone we hired stay more than a couple of days; we finally figured out she doesn't like women, now looking for a male, but it could be the same situation with her not wanting anyone to help her even thought she knows she does things wrong now and can't take care of herself, but continually tells us she can do it. But, like I said earlier, my 2 brothers can get her to do anything, and she will do places with them, but not me except when I take her to the doctor, she goes then. I don't understand how she can be mean to others and sweet as sugar to my two brothers; it makes the other family members thnink she can be somewhat normal when she wants to. It's a mystery, just wondered if anyone else has had this problem (s)?
My father is 87 and suffers Dementia and PTSD. He doesn't know me 95% of the time. When is mind is dementia he is totally helpless. He had to have help with everything, however when he is PTSD he can walk some but wants to go during this state. He is now having a hard time swallowing. He is losing weight and a large part of his muscles. I am no longer sure what stage he is in. I help care for him 24/7. I see him slipping away but unsure of what to watch for. He is a retired Marine and I don't want to see him suffer
Not certain if you mentioned blood pressure ----so I ask if he has a regular blood pressure/ is on BP meds. If it is low, sleeping can be the result. May need his MD to evaluate his bp & adjust accordingly?
Jeanifer: It's a mystery, just wondered if anyone else has had this problem (s)?
My answer is YES. I get treated like crap by both parents for whom I care. Emotional intelligence and reason is and always has been low for them. I am fervently seeking a ft job far away so I can leave the caregiving to the rest of the siblings who have done nothing to help all the while maligning my contribution with my parents.
I wake up wondering what I will be slammed for next. I get that b*tching makes my mom feel important - but even when there might be a vein of truth to it - (often not)- the delivery and childishness that comes with it numbs me to any logic she may have.
Mom is sleeping more now as well. She is 94 and has hardly eaten anything for the past two weeks. She gets very dizzy and faint if she lies flat back or is standing up/exerting herself, and does not have the strength to hold herself up. I thought she was in the active stage of dying on Monday, so I arranged for the anointing of the sick. She was better the following day, and perks up if she has visitors, but when she is alone and just me, there is a heavy atmosphere and low energy. She doesn't want to do anything, and I can't seem to comfort her at all. Totally different dynamics. Maybe it's because she's comfortable enough with me to be genuine and express what she's feeling. But she has been having chest pain, back pain and shortness of breath, and her breathing, when she's snoozing, can become rapid, then slow. Then she will be very confused, talking when she's half awake, not knowing if it's night or day, not able to tell the difference between TV and reality and converging episodes with real life events. Crying for her mother and father. I do believe this is the beginning of the end, but it is so stressful not knowing if it will be days, weeks, months. On Monday there was such a sense of absence, emptiness, and I felt quite melancholy. It will be so different from dad's passing because he was in a nursing home when he died, and we were told when his death was eminent and we could prepare for it - well, you're never really prepared when it happens. But mom and I have lived in the same apartment for 17 years, so her presence (and lack of it) will be felt more acutely.
My mom is having the same dizziness. Her md said she had a uti and treated her for it, but the dizziness continues. Blood tests were ordered but results aren’t back yet. She gets very dizzy when she lies down or gets up from lying down. Her blood pressure is fine. I am stumped.
My husband doesn't have alzheimer disease, but he stays in bed most of the time. He'll be 85 this month. He doesn't have anything else to do except eat and watch tv. I think he's just depressed now. I can't sleep in the same bed with him anymore. He is nude,& leaves urine,mucus,& skid marksin the bed. I wish you luck and Blessings. .It's a lonely life now.
I'm disabled also,& I have a little help everyday.My husband is a sweetheart, &he has dementia. He doesn't like to bathe, & I'm afraid he'll get MRSA or sores on his skin. Does anybody else have problems with loved one not wanting to shower or bathe? Any help will be appreciated.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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She has just recently developed another eye infection which seems rather severe. It looks like uveitis from the pictures and description on the web. I managed to get her to a walk-in clinic last Saturday and received a prescription for antibiotic drops. The doctor said if it didn't clear up in a week to go to her g.p. Along with the infection, she is getting more severe headaches/eye pain, and it is hard to tell if it is from the infection or the meningioma (benign growth on the skull above the affected eye). I've given her more Tylenol in the past week or two than in the last few months.
Well the drops didn't even make a dent in the infection and I have been so worried the retina might detach or she might lose her vision. Against a lot of opposition I called the Med Visit doctor, who was amazingly intelligent as he had eye issues himself. He gave me another prescription for eye drops as well as an ointment to put in at night, but reassured me that she showed no signs of a detached retina. However, if I didn't seen an improvement within 48 hours, to go to Emergency, where they would have the equipment to look at the back of the eye and make a referral to a specialist. Needless to say, she refused to go today.
She has such profound fatigue and weakness that she becomes short of breath with the slightest physical exertion or emotional upset. She has tremors that look more like mini seizures, especially when she is angry/upset/arguing. She also complains more about not being able to breathe. Her hearing loss is so profound now that even when I am speaking up close to her and repeating myself 4 times, she cannot hear or comprehend even the simplest of questions or statements. The extreme dizzy spells are becoming frequent and she has trouble walking (she says she doesn't have any strength in her).
I believe this is the beginning of the end, but then it can go on for months or years. I just wish she wasn't so oppositionally defiant about having someone in with her. This proverbial plane is experiencing a lot of turbulence and headed for a crash landing.
My answer is YES. I get treated like crap by both parents for whom I care. Emotional intelligence and reason is and always has been low for them. I am fervently seeking a ft job far away so I can leave the caregiving to the rest of the siblings who have done nothing to help all the while maligning my contribution with my parents.
I wake up wondering what I will be slammed for next. I get that b*tching makes my mom feel important - but even when there might be a vein of truth to it - (often not)- the delivery and childishness that comes with it numbs me to any logic she may have.