This is an update on my mom's progressing demented behaviors. At 0700 this motning I exited my room with my puppies, as always, heading to back yard for their morning constitutional. My folks were in kitchen/ living room area (they usually sleep until 1p but both up since 5am today. My boyfriend had been in kitchen setting up my breakfast work space. When I came into view, my mom started asking why all the prople were in the living room packing boxes and moving things out. I told her no one is here doing anything like that. She continued on with tge same delusion and I continued to clarify that nothing was going on. She had a wooden trash can in her hands and began to yell, “I am sick and tired of you people not telling us whats going on or where we are going! Then she thro threw the trashcan on the floor threatening to call the police. She continued to go on about the same issue no matter how I tried to dissuade her. She began to empty things from pantry. “Packing them up to move”. I suggested she mention these episode to her at her upcoming appointment and that maybe the doctor could help somehow. She accused me of trying to make her look crazy and said that the doctor will laugh in my face. She accused me of being crazy. And tried to blame her confusion on me. This issue continued for an hour. They discussed in their room plans to “get away”. Still convinced we are moving. Similar events have been occurring about every other day in my home. I would record her behavior if my cell were nearby during these times. I will make a concerted effort to do so from here on. I tried to sneak in a bit of mental status assessment but she refused answer. Thank you for your attention to these matters.
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/i-am-still-dealing-with-both-my-parents-now-98yo-dad-is-dependent-on-mom-mom-has-been-increasingly-c-498632.htm
Seems you’re living with a parent or parents with dementia. You cannot reason with them or explain their behavior to them. Dementia makes their brains permanently unable to make good decisions or understand their own behaviors. You need more help. Start with mom’s doctor and look into what’s the best and safest living arrangement for them
This is a public forum for mostly unpaid family caregivers. You have sent your post to the wrong place.
If you are in the US, and if you are your Mom's medical PoA then you have recourse to get her diagnosed and use your legal authority to get her proper medication or transition her into a facility.
If you are not your Mom's PoA then the Dr. really can't do anything due to HIPAA rules. You have no power except to move out or force your parents to move out.
More info would be helpful.
Do they have the Baker Act or something similar in your state ?
You are going to have to try everything to get your parents out of the house and placed .
This includes NOT admitting to being retired. You have to say your parents can not be home alone and that you are not home all day . You have to also tell them that you are suffering mental health issues and feel you are in physical danger due to living with them.
Unfortunately , these days “ unsafe discharge “ has lost a lot of its power , especially if the elder lives in your home , rather than alone . These days in order to get a parent out of your home , it takes saying that you are suffering from living with a parent with dementia .
Anytime you feel threatened by either of your parents then call the police. Hide the knives and scissors , screwdrivers , hammers etc. and lock your bedroom door at night .
Go talk to an eldercare attorney to see how to get them out of your house.