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Take him out in a wheelchair. If you're still able to get him in and out of a car safely you'll be fine. If not you could still take him in the wheelchair to places within walking distance.
My Husband LOVED going for a ride in the car, loved going to Costco and Sam's. I made the decision to stop taking him out when it was no longer safe. One day I had to have our caregiver help him into the car, I was down on the ground trying to turn his feet so that he would end up in the right spot on the seat of the car. I said..that's it. That was our last trip. IF it is safe for you to get him out then continue. But if there is any doubt then stop. You can take him for walks (in include a wheelchair as a walk) around the facility. Sit and chat. Watch TV. Bring lunch or dinner and have a nice meal, ask if you can use the private dining room and make is special. And if he is cognizant ask him what he wants to do. If he is not cognizant then he probably is not bored, that is the affect of a person with dementia
Get the physical and occupational therapists in the facility to help both you and your sibling figure out if it's safe to get dad out for activities. If so, have them SHOW you how to help him get in and out of the car safely. Or his wheelchair....you give no details but a title to a question, so it's impossible to really give you useful advice other than that.
Are there aides that can help with getting him in and out? If so, a nice ride would get him out. Where I live we have a "Custard Stand" where everyone goes for soft serve. You pull up park and go to the window and order then carry it back to the car. I see a lot of people taking an elderly parent there for a "treat". I stopped taking Mom out because she fell. Just me, no way can I pick her up. She had neuropathy in her ankles and would go down like a lead balloon.
The question should be is it safe to take him out. He may be bored but if you can’t safely take him out, you shouldn’t. My mother always wants to leave but she is a two person lift and we have a truck, so there is no way I can take her anywhere. I once ordered a specialized taxi with a lift and still had difficulty and she was in extreme discomfort. We have never gone out again.
I fear we are heading this direction with my mom. But how do you get your mom to necessary outings - the doctor, for example? Sadly, we've stopped all "fun" outings, but still have to get her to appointments.
'Assist x1' for car transfers. - pot on to warm Lifting heavy legs in - pot heating up Hauling body out, bringing a walker, bringing wheelchair - pot simmering... Double incontinence. - boiled over, I am done
Your Dad probably is bored. My Mom who has dementia is bored.
Is your Dad confined to bed or is he is a wheelchair? If he is in a wheelchair, as another person posted, get PT and OT for your Dad and you so that a) your Dad has the balance and limited mobility to transfer from wheelchair to car safely b) that both of you learn how to transfer him from wheelchair to car safely without hurting yourself (back issues).
If he has to stay in his wheelchair, can you take him out and wheel him around the neighborhood? Can you walk to a casual restaurant? Can you bring food in for him? Can the PT suggest any devices and exercises that will help your Dad improve his mobility? Can the PT suggest any exercises that you can do together? Games? puzzles? Books? Video games?
What does the PT say about his limited mobility? Can he get back to the state where he can walk again? It is important to keep his muscles functioning as non-mobile people begin to have all sorts of health issues that would not have appeared if they were mobile (e.g. circulation and digestive issues)
Does the assisted living facility have activities that he can join? Does he want to do them?
Although your sister means well, it doesn't mean this is a forever situation. What does your Dad want to do with his life? What is his opinion?
Safety trumps being bored. If you can't safely transport him, find other ways to peak his interest. Card games, online or TV horse races and sports games. Puzzles or lottery scratch offs. Read to him. Bring family in for an impromptu "party". Wheel him outside just for a change of scenery or an ice cream cone. Anything that changes up his routine will delight him. btw If positioning in a car is a problem, buy a quality rotating seat cushion which can help pivot him.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Take him out in a wheelchair. If you're still able to get him in and out of a car safely you'll be fine.
If not you could still take him in the wheelchair to places within walking distance.
I made the decision to stop taking him out when it was no longer safe. One day I had to have our caregiver help him into the car, I was down on the ground trying to turn his feet so that he would end up in the right spot on the seat of the car. I said..that's it. That was our last trip.
IF it is safe for you to get him out then continue.
But if there is any doubt then stop.
You can take him for walks (in include a wheelchair as a walk) around the facility. Sit and chat.
Watch TV.
Bring lunch or dinner and have a nice meal, ask if you can use the private dining room and make is special.
And if he is cognizant ask him what he wants to do. If he is not cognizant then he probably is not bored, that is the affect of a person with dementia
If you feel you can, then you do so.
Right?
Whether Dad is bored or not is up to him - but sentence cut off so please elaborate further if you wish to :)
No wonder so many seniors don't want to be put in any of these places.
Good luck
- pot on to warm
Lifting heavy legs in
- pot heating up
Hauling body out, bringing a walker, bringing wheelchair
- pot simmering...
Double incontinence.
- boiled over, I am done
Is your Dad confined to bed or is he is a wheelchair? If he is in a wheelchair, as another person posted, get PT and OT for your Dad and you so that a) your Dad has the balance and limited mobility to transfer from wheelchair to car safely b) that both of you learn how to transfer him from wheelchair to car safely without hurting yourself (back issues).
If he has to stay in his wheelchair, can you take him out and wheel him around the neighborhood? Can you walk to a casual restaurant? Can you bring food in for him? Can the PT suggest any devices and exercises that will help your Dad improve his mobility? Can the PT suggest any exercises that you can do together? Games? puzzles? Books? Video games?
What does the PT say about his limited mobility? Can he get back to the state where he can walk again? It is important to keep his muscles functioning as non-mobile people begin to have all sorts of health issues that would not have appeared if they were mobile (e.g. circulation and digestive issues)
Does the assisted living facility have activities that he can join? Does he want to do them?
Although your sister means well, it doesn't mean this is a forever situation. What does your Dad want to do with his life? What is his opinion?
btw If positioning in a car is a problem, buy a quality rotating seat cushion which can help pivot him.