My mom passed away this past Sunday. She had Uterine Cancer, kidney failure, blood clots. For the past 5 years, I took care of my mom. I helped pay the bills, cook the meals, take care of the house as she couldn't walk. I would even help her get up so she could go to the bathroom. I lived with my mom and am unemployed and have no Driver's License. Everything is in her name as far as checking accounts, bills etc. She fell in the house landing her in the Hospital. She was there and then went to Hospice where she passed away. Sorry for the rant, but is there anyway I can get some type of benefit or benefits for taking care of my mom? I'm afraid I'm going to lose my home. I'm trying to get a job but it takes time. I am really desperate. Can anybody help me or at least point me in the right direction?
Also often medical records, though requested, are not submitted in a timely fashion which subsequently holds up the claims. And of course the agency itself may be short staffed.
State agencies can’t concern themselves with each person’s details.
It really helps your case to have your own medical records available so in the interim you can request copies. Have you been seeing health care providers consistently that will support your application for disability?
All things to think about even as you work through your grief over losing your mother.
So sorry for your loss.
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Don’t panic. I know it’s hard to find time to grieve when you are worried sick about your future. Go on the Internet and do research on financial aid. Jobs and Family Services in your community is a good place to start. Dialing 211 is another. The research isn’t easy and you’ll get turned down like I have. The woman at Social Security made me feel like a worthless beggar. But help is out there. Good luck!
You wrote;
"Everything was in my mom's name. I was paying the bills."
HOW did you do pay them? ATM card? Checks? Did you bring her into the bank to withdraw the money?
Does she have any money left in her account that you can live on until the government services and a new job kick in?
I would call all the utilities and other necessary services and explain the situation. They will be much more lenient if you give them a heads up as to why the bills may be late. Often, they can work out payment plans for you.
Good luck.
It is like being cursed.
That desperate demeanor does not help, and if you become aware of it, you may be able to change it!
Sometimes, spending a bit (on a haircut) can do wonders, you will be standing up straight, smiling, and get the next job!
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Thinking of you. I hope things turn a corner soon. Hang in there. Please know we are all here.
I couldn’t ascertain what your employment was prior to all this, but it sounds like you had a career and put it in the back burner.
I would suggest applying for temporary positions in your field to get started. Visit employment websites like Indeed.com etc and register to be notified of positions in your area. That’s a great site.
Think about maybe renting a room to someone responsible for an income source.
You need to get busy for your mental health. You sound like a well educated person with a lot to offer, it’s just that getting back into the work force is hard - especially with an employment gap and yes, age discrimination (which totally exists these days). I really do think that the pendulum is changing as far as employers hiring older people as we have a good work ethic & are reliable.
Maybe consider classes at your local community college to get training in IT/Microsoft to add those skills to your resume.
It’s never too late, Mets82, and I believe you will be rewarded for caring for your mom for those years but you have to get out there and put some effort into it. It already sounds that you have made a start.
Apply everywhere - supermarkets are often hiring and have great benefits if you get set part time or full time hours.
Make a list of goals for yourself. Realize the benefits you already have (a home). Sell the home if it’s yours and either rent or buy a smaller place to live so the upkeep is not over your budget.
Don’t give up!
Go to your county website and employment site as many local businesses post positions or links to positions there for people who are on unemployment. Take advantage of county resources for career training - often these services are free as well if offered by local government.
You are still grieving the loss of your mother & that is hard. But your mom would want you to go on and live your life to it’s fullest as that would be her goal for you.
I believe things will get better for you, but you’ve got to believe it yourself.
Become a Uber driver of you have a vehicle.
Good luck!
Goodwill also has job counseling.