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How do I take away my husband’s keys and buy a new car? He shouldn’t be driving because his judgement has deteriorated. Our car is 17 years old and needs work. Husband thinks the car drive fine.

My 82 yr old HWD drove our tri county area appraising property. Never had a ticket or accident. Driving skills on automatic, still excellent, memory shot. No point in discussion. He was never going to agreeto give up The Prius. Son came sneaked car out of garage and took it for service. They kept it for 3 months. When he started asking me to take him to get it...I changed the subject, over and over and over. I got up to potty over and over and over. Hid my keys. I drive he navigates. I let him drive, I navigate. Finally he asked if he could pick up the car and I told him our son had picked it up and was keeping it. He has stopped asking.. TOOK FOUR MONTHS.....
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Reply to Doris2
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The DMV kept taking away mom's license and giving it back. It took a near miss on the highway before she finally gave up driving. She was mad for a long time I sold her car and put the money towards her care.
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Unless you are now the "designated driver" it is silly to buy a new car. It is time now for hubby to give up driving. I would discuss this with his doctor and with your husband himself.

Do you live near public transit? If not it is time to consider what is safe for your and your husband's future.
Best of luck.
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Reply to AlvaDeer
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You can buy a lockbox with a combination that only you know, and keep all the keys in there.

It's a hard thing to do, but you need to protect him and the other drivers on the road.
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You hide his keys, then get in the car yourself and purchase a new vehicle, leaving the jalopy at the dealership. Tell him you're going to the salon. When DH wants to drive the new car, you hide THOSE keys or put The Club over the steering wheel and keep that key in the freezer in foil, informing him his driving days are now over, per doctors orders.
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I think you just have to take the plunge and do it and deal with consequences after. It will be difficult but there is no other solution. I don't know if attempting to reason with him regarding what will happen with your insurance if he causes an accident will make a difference but you can keep saying that over and over. I hope you can move forward and find a way to deal with this. The consequences could only cause you more stress. Also you can keep repeating the problems the car has.
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