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I am new here I found this place on accident. I am taking care of my father he fell over a year ago and broke his hip the doctor did a bad job on surgery and he has never walked after that. My husband and I I take care of him mostly me my husband works 3am until sometimes 5pm. It is to a point now where my Dad fights with me about taking his meds and he wants up and down from bed about 20+ times a day. I have MS so it takes a toll on me changing him and getting him into the wheelchair which takes about 20 mins on a good day getting him to the kitchen and BOOM he yells TAKE ME BACK THERE after 10 mins. I have to roll him back to his room (first I have to strip his bed and but new linens and blankets down) and get his lift all set up get him in bed and that is my day besides washing blankets and sheets all flipping day.
AND all night I mean all night he calls my name I don't think he sleeps.
What do you do about the up and down game? and the fighting about taking his meds?

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There is another post addressing this same problem. The OP has MS and is trying to take care of someone.

Seems to me Dad needs more care than you can give him. He needs to be in a Long term Care facility. If he has any money, use it for his care, when its gone put him on Medicaid.

My cousin suffered from MS. Stress did her in. Your health is important.
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Please guard your own health. What you’re doing isn’t sustainable, it’s not your fault that your dad needs more care than you can provide
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Honestly it sounds like you have taken on more than you(or anyone)can handle. I'm sure that the fact that he calls you all night long, means that you're not getting enough rest, which of course only exacerbates your MS. You now have to decide if your health is worth risking for the care of your dad. That doesn't mean that you don't love your dad, but it means that you love yourself too and have to now do what's best for you. And that just might mean that he is now going to have to be placed in the appropriate facility. Either that, or you are going to have to hire full-time help(with his money)to come, so you can get some rest, and start taking care of yourself. I'm sure your dad does not want you risking your health over his care. Please take care of yourself, before it's too late. God bless you.
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