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‘Flirts’ usually means talk eg ‘How come you get more beautiful every day?’. ‘Touching’ can mean hand holding or shoulder patting. Both are a very long way from sexual interference. Anyway, knee-patting would be a misdemeanor not a felony (unless your laws’ definitions of a felony are very strange). I can’t quite see just how Dad could get his mits under the clothing this lady would wear, if he wanted to get to her genital area. But do check if he is going into her bedroom, or worse her bed.

I’d ask to see the reports of ‘incidents’, plus records of discussions with the lady and her family saying what their reactions are. HOWEVER if this is a scam then a) the reports may be written up after you ask for them and b) you would probably be getting a new scam sooner or later.

‘Pay money or we’ll report it to the police and he’ll probably go to jail’ falls fair and square into the definition of blackmail. Might be worth mentioning, see if they run.
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Ask to see the reports,, then go from there.
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Should an assisted living facility that has residents with dementia be responsible for keeping them apart? Or is it the family's responsibility to pay for private sitter?
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ZippyZee May 2021
I kind of wonder if that would be the line drawn to determine MC vs AL
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I would move him out and I would not tell the new facility that he is coming from another facility. These kinds of threats are reason enough to move him.

There is all kinds of touching and even relationships that happen in senior facilities, did her family complain or is it the facility management that thinks he is behaving inappropriately?

Has he actually touched someone inappropriately or just talking?

I think that you are being hustled by a facility that doesn't understand elder care.

I recommend moving him closer to family that can help keep an eye on the truth of the situation.
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He may not be able to be in Assisted Living with this behavior and may need memory care where he has more supervision or may require a nursing home. I am so sorry you are all going through this. Does your Dad have a diagnosis of any dementia? If so, then he will not be convicted of a felony, but they may ask him to leave.
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CathyS May 2021
Six months ago, my mom was in an ILC. She had a crush on one of the guys there. Thankfully, there were no issues or incidents. My mom might have been the one to worry about instigating things, so I'm glad nothing escalated to that point. Now she is in a MC situation and doesn't want ANY male around. She doesn't like it that these guys have the right to walk around in the halls. She thinks they are always coming in her room. That's not happening, but now I'm watching things on the other end if the spectrum. And we think the teenage years are rough. Ha!
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Move him. It sounds like a shakedown to me, too. Ignore the incident report threats, too.
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