I went to visit my 91 y.o. mother with alzheimers/dementia and other physical ailments. She currently is a resident of Delaware. She resides in my brother's home and she has 24 hour caregivers which are paidfrom my mother's funds. My brother has POA. I discovered that my visit with my mother in her bedroom without anyone else present was both filmed and recorded. I did not give permission and given my mother's condition, I sincerely doubt that she gave permission either. Does anyone have any thoughts concerning my brother's belief that he has the right to film all that goes on in her bedroom given he has her POA? He also has his housekeeper sign for mail restricted to my mother using my mother's name. Thanks, Chad
With all that I've been through the last few weeks (with five siblings) I can tell you that the best thing is to get along, it's hard to have someone else in charge but when it comes right down to it, I'm sorry to say you'll be relieved of the responsibility. My mom gave control to my two younger sisters and it didn't sit right with my eldest, causing all sorts of conflicts and unnecessary stress for me since I was then the go between. I needed my sanity and absolutely refused to do this. Talk to your brother and maybe he'll agree to let you have more privacy with your Mom. Good luck and God Bless.
But as her POA and Primary Caregiver, your brother has a legal and moral obligation to protect her from anyone, and since she has 24 hr caregivers coming in, I don't see why or how anyone could argue with 24 hr monitoring.
As for the housekeep signing for your Mom's restricted mail--I am not sure if that is legal-your postal department would know-as well as the legal department of the Alz Assoc.
Best to you in finding your answers.
Hap
However, I certainly understand and PRAISE your brother's decision to record your mom under 24 hr paid caregiver's care.