Since my dad came home from the hospital, I'm realizing that knowing what needs to happen and actually being able to help are two very different things.I don't live with my parents. My mom is there, but she's starting to forget things herself, and my sister is more than two hours away and has a lot going on with her own family.I can call, remind them, try to keep track of medications and appointments, but I also have my own work and responsibilities. Sometimes I feel like I know they need more help, but I can't physically be there every time something comes up.
Am I missing something here? How do people actually manage this when you live hours away and have your own life going on too?
I managed my parents' care for five years while they died at home. Never again. This is why I recommend that your parents go to Assisted Living where a team of professionals will take care of them 24/7. Whatever you do, don't move parents in with you. In about 5 minutes, you'll regret it, and that's another one of those eldercare moments - trying to undo what you did and finding it is impossible, so you are stuck. Don't get stuck, and I wish you luck. (A little poem.) I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.
Your profile says you are in CA.
Your response to someone below seems to infer that your parents are here legally, is this correct? It's very important to know the answer because the guidance we give and the resources available will be very different.
Why was your Dad in the hospital recently?
Do they own their own home?
Thanks
My friends were sued out of house n home., because someone wanted a quick payday..
..... am i the only realizing this a bit late?
paying Medicare A and B already eating much of the Social security. does these senior care managers free of charge? or part of the healthplan or some sort? they are not religious, just plain old people eat, poop and play phones.
checking in weekly seems to be doable, but barely affordable to make the trip. sandwiches,...sandwiches..
..... am i the only realizing this a bit late?