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I moved far away to be near and take care of my father. I have been all alone for many years, focusing on my family, with my only relationships with my brother and his family, now strained, and an old friend whose family is having just the worst situations that make mine not even trivial. So recently I met someone, in their 40's, who works at the local store that I frequent regularly. We have gone out for coffee, dinner and recently I went swimming at their apartment complex. This person told me about their life and told that their father was the president of a major corporation.


Well, I was impressed but something didn't seem right. So I did an online search and found out that their father was never the president! The father is actually a division manager, or something like that, at the company. I know how some people like to impress others but I think this crosses the line and I think I could be in for more lying. Is this common? Should I drop this friend?

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You just moved to be closer your father in the spring and you were not asked to be his caregiver per your past posts. Your brother is in charge of your father and pays for his aides. Yet again you are not asking a caregiving question. Don't waste the forum's time. Go back to your international deal making. That's hardly years of caregiving.
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I don't think this is the Dear Abby site.
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Lisa,

This question has nothing to do with caregiving.

That said, I commend you for at least socializing with those of your age group. I, personally, would overlook this detail as frankly it could have been shorthand that the dad was a company bigwig.

My advice: Try to just enjoy ppl for whom they are. No ones asking anyone for money or demanding a long term relationship or even sex. You have a friend. Treat him as one.
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lisatrevor Aug 2022
Thanks. I did ask this person if they would like to go to a concert event and they said "Yes, if you buy my ticket!". I thought that was kind of forward but silly. I think in this case they don't have a lot of extra money. That's ok. I may buy the ticket because they seem genuinely nice and the ticket price is not outrageous.
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“I think I could be in for more lying. Is this common? Should I drop this friend?”

you’re asking if lying is common.

i think (and really, i don’t mean to be rude; i mean it seriously), you have mental problems.

asking whether it’s common for people to lie, is not normal. it’s the kind of question a 3 year old might ask their parents.

OP, how dare you waste other people’s precious time.
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lisatrevor Aug 2022
Thank you for the good laugh! The reason I ask is because as I caregiver for many years , giving up nearly all my social life, I am not used to interacting with people. Yes, people lied to me as a teenager, in my 20's but 40's? I just don't know how common it is. And to create a grandiose title for their father is bizarre to me but could it not be unusual? I literally have no one to talk to except my father and it's a totally different relationship than a friend.

I promise to not post unless it is directly about caregiving.
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