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It's possible he could pass the d*mn test. My dad got a notice to renew his license and had to take an eye exam. In thought maybe I'd be done worrying about his driving. Nope, he passed. Got a five year renewal. Oh great. My dad will only listen to cops and doctors. Anyone else should just mind their own business. I have some cop connections and I plan to have his doc and a local cop
Be the bad guys. He will forget the cop took the keys and we will have to remind him every day but it's the best plan I can come up with. And oh yeah, now mom says she'll start driving again when dad can't. She's 84 and last drove a car about 1975. The hits just keep on coming.......
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Eventually we will all go through this ourselves. Think about how you would feel to have your independence taken away. Wouldn't like it one bit, would you? Especially if it was your know-it-all kid saying so. LOL

That being said. What we had to do with FIL was sell the 2 cars and buy 1 new one that he had never driven and didn't know anything about. He wasn't given a key to it to begin with. He didn't give up easily and badgered MIL to the very end to let him drive. She held firm and we all had many, many conversations with him about it. I never felt so sorry for anyone in my life. He would just cry, it hurt him so. On the other hand MIL gradually began giving up driving to others.

Good luck with this. It's such a tough thing to do.
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perhaps you could break it to him in a singing telegram .

na na na NA
hubby dear , your memories getting bad .
doc wants to see ya , and your gonna be mad .
your plowing ditches , and sideswiped a bus .
your gonna be the death of both of us .
gimmee those keys , and ill get you some ' ludes .
can it right now , with that attitude .
im not even interested , in your rebuttal .
get your senile old a** , on the senior bus shuttle.
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My husband had dementia for 10 years before he died. To him the absolute worst part of the whole journey was not being able to drive. It is really a devastating loss and there is no way to sugarcoat it. But it is essential. Someone with dementia driving puts other people at risk. This is not acceptable.

If he fails the driving test, please take away the keys.
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My daughter took the keys away from him while I was away for a few days. She tried to make him think the keys (key) was lost. He didn't believe her, and somehow in his mind he thought a gang of women were after him. So he said he would hide in the workshop and hit them with a baseball bat whenever they returned. This gang (he called them the groupies) were stealing from his workshop as well as they key. I will try to use his pickup and take him to wherever he needs to go. He has the key. I will just try harder. marymember
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My brother is a fireman. Point blank, he said take the keys away.. NOW. Just remove the keys...Tell him the Firedepartment and police say no more driving.... If he gets in an accident it wont take much for the other person to say geriatric man's fault.... My brother has seen it too many times.
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If he's tested and fails, it is the testing facility that's taking away his license...at least that's the meme I'd latch on to. The real worry (for me) would be that he'd pass their exam. Yikes. If you need his truck, lock the keys in a secure place when you aren't driving it yourself. When we're care taking for loved ones, we often have to be tough as nails . . . And shed our tears when we have alone time. I feel your pain.
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