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today’s words of wisdom:
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I can see it’s gonna be a
rope, duct tape and shovel kind of day.
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Bikini season is just around the corner. Unfortunately, so is the taco truck.
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more words of wisdom for today:
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You know who’s gonna give you everything? Yourself.
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today’s words of wisdom:
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It’s YOUR story.
Feel free to hit ’em with a plot twist at any moment.
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@BOJ

No truer words have ever been spoken about someone trying to make another person feel guilty for something they did themselves.

This is my mother and several other family members TO THE LETTER.

I came to a point with both of my parents where our relationship was I'll see you when I see you if I choose to see you. Then when they needed help it was basically I'll help you as much as I choose to and I will be no drama, no disrespect (on their parts), no manipulation, and no games. Or I'm out.

My MIL is starting up a bit hinting about us all living together, and it's a hard 'NO' from me.
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So…apparently, if you keep to yourself
and you don’t bother people…

it apparently…
bothers people!
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May the bridges I burn
light my way.
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I don’t regret burning my bridges. I do regret that some people weren’t on those bridges when I burned them, though.
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i see people mentioned bridges…
so…

here are today’s words of wisdom:
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If standing up for yourself burns bridges,
I have matches.
We ride at dawn.
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china - I'm sorry you feel so alone. It's hard when your children don't support you. You sound depressed. Would a doctor be able to help you? I have found I have to reach out to make friends. Mostly they don't come to me.

JRwornout - yes that too, for sure. Sometimes no contact is the way to go.
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Bundleofjoy,
"You have to pretend I’m a bad person so you don’t feel guilty about the things you did." really resonates with me. Thanks for posting.

I'll add:

I'm not interested in rebuilding a bridge that you burned.
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I came from a unfuctionol family i.left home at 15 I have 2 daughters that don't care if i.dye I'm lonely and crying out i.want a family friends or someone who we can go places with and travel
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BOJ and Golden, WOW that makes so much sense. My mom pretty much disowned me, when I left my husband. It's so much easier for her to think bad about me , than to accept the fact that she was very very wrong. First I get a sense from things I've heard she thinks I'm an alcoholic, which is just plain hilarious, anything she hears about me she thinks the worst. Thats like a lightbulb 💡 💡 💡 moment x10
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ME TOO, golden. i understand you.
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You look like a no thanks to me.
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BOJ - You have to pretend I’m a bad person so you don’t feel guilty about the things you did.

This one really resonates with me.
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also today’s words of wisdom:
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Some of the most poisonous people come disguised as friends and family.
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Narcissist (noun):

A more polite term for a manipulative, evil person with no soul.
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today’s words of wisdom:
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You have to pretend I’m a bad person so you don’t feel guilty about the things you did.
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Thx Daisy. It's not much but better than nothing. I'm sorry you had to deal with suicide attempts, but very glad to hear he is doing so well.

BOJ -good ones.

sassy -welcome. Sounds like a lot of chaos. The only one who can get you out of this is you. A number of us here have been scapegoats to a narcissist and it makes life pretty unpleasant. i can only encourage you to build your own life apart from these people. Develop friendships with healthy people, develop your own interests - things that you enjoy. You don't have to be the "servant child" to your dysfunctional family. They are not doing you any good. Get a job and get your own place. I think then you will have a better chance of getting custody of your children. Good luck.
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My savior This is exactly what I need I keep going on the wrong forum I'm honestly barely hanging on by a thread I moved back in with my mother in 2007 after my divorce I was going through a custody battle my mother fell down a flight of stairs broke hip in November 2008 I lived here it fell on me my 3 year old son lived here and my brother and I have 3 narcissistic sisters and 2 other children 5 and 7 going from New Jersey to Pennsylvania fighting my ex husband for custody and one of my sister's is calling him behind my back making up lies about me for his case against me Evil anyway Mother gets on her feet end of January 2009 I get another job my brother has a massive stroke march 2009 falls on me none of those witches have ever stepped up 2012 SANDY the Storm I lived downstairs we got hit I lost just about everything including my car FEMA gave my mother a check including the money for my car she kept it my brother has not driven since 2009 and Mother since around 2012 she has been legally blind yet she was getting paid by medicaid to care for my brother? No one will tell me who her power of attorney is she won't either Dysfunctional is not the word yet I'm still here and I am broken and Mother is the covert narcissistic parent and I'm the scapegoat
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today’s words of wisdom:
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There is a place you can touch a woman that will drive her crazy. Her heart.
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also today’s words of wisdom:
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“I don’t recognize you — I’ve changed a lot.”
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today’s words of wisdom:
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“An idea that is not dangerous is unworthy of being called an idea at all.”
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today’s words of wisdom:
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To anybody I offended this year:
Work on yourself
so I don’t gotta do it again in 2026.
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“Before you put on a frown, make absolutely sure there are no smiles available.”
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EXCELLENT quote of wisdom:
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“Friendship is a wildly underrated medication.”
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today’s words of wisdom:
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“May you attract someone who speaks your language
so you don’t have to spend a lifetime translating your soul.”
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Golden, I'm glad there is more communication with your daughter. I understand BP a little bit, it's not easy and it's hard on those that love them. It does make relationship harder. I adore my oldest son, but I honestly just take what I can get outta him, we both know we love each other, this is just the way it is with him. He has a wonderful family, fantastic job, in the mental health field. That's all I really need. Sure Id love more, from him, but I just think about how glad I am he is happy, that's truly all I want from him.

He had a couple very intense suicide attempts , and an abandoned mill, fire , good times, 🤣🤔🤣. So I'm just very proud, of what he became
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Boj - the real question for me is do the actions follow the words?

Daisy - Glad your sis helped. Stand firm with your mom. Also glad your gf's bro came to help her. That's appropriate. It doesn't all have to fall on you. Some of us who were brought up to be helpers/fixers need to stand back and leave room for others to step up.

I have started communicating again with my BPD daughter. We are keeping it about her and her kids which tends to work better. I read here about how parents expect their kids to help them and it makes me wonder.
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